How Do You Get Over A Breakup?

There's absolutely no specific way to get over a relationship, or a heartbreak, especially when it's someone you were really in Love with.

Everything just takes time. Time makes everything better.

You stop talking to the person, seeing the person as often as you used to, depending on this person everyday, literally stop your daily routine with this person, This only gives you time to get used to being without this person. Does it make you stop loving the person? No.

It only hides the fact that you still care about this person in a part of your brain you don't use everyday. I don't know if that makes sense to you...

Due to the fact that you don't see, talk and deal with this person everyday like you used to, it creates the distance and you can actually live through the days without thinking about this person.

At first it feels like your world is falling apart and you can get through it, and with social media which makes everything worse because you see the person everywhere. You don;t stop crying or feeling depressed.  Allow yourself accept that this is happening.

Block, Delete, from social media. Very Important......
you don't want to be seeing picture of him and his new girlfriend because that's gonna happen, and you don't need that now do you? Naaaa

Allow yourself to cry when you need to. Thus preventing a giant tidal wave of #feels to wash over you in the workplace or anywhere else inappropriate. If you don't, you'll repress your feelings until you break down in the office while working on your excel sheet and that girl who you don't like has to take you to the bathroom and start asking personal questions about why you're crying, questions you don't feel like answering... Bleh 

If you get a Facebook invite to his best friend's party ... stay home, put a face mask on, eat , and watch Scandal. There is always a strong temptation to show up with a fresh blowout and a low-cut J.Lo Grammys dress, and grind with his friend that you hate just to make him jealous. Eat your heart out, Watch Scandal. Actually, assuming his best friend is some guy you don't really care about, going to that party still makes it all about him — not your emotional well-being. And seeing him will just pick the scab

Don't scheme to get him back — scheme to get yourself back.Try to do things to get your mind off it, basically live through it, go on with your daily activities and use this time to focus on you and learn from the mistakes you make. Engage yourself in lots of activities to get your mind of it, try to do the things you like doing. Go on a trip somewhere with a girlfriend. Paint your bathroom; I don't care. Just do something for yourself.

Go Out More..... I know it's kind of cliche but fresh air actually helps you think straight and relax... I know we sometimes need to stay home and just wrap up under the duvet but try going out sometimes, helps balance things up,,, and if you feel like you plan to get drunk while out, don't do it alone,,, call your friends for a girls night out

Write him heartbroken letters and never send them. ( This I do A lot)  Get it all out, on paper, so as to avoid accidentally sending them. (E is for the "Extremely messed up way you treated me." R is for "the rage I feel." I is for "I will never love again." H is for HOW COULD YOU DO THIS TO ME." Sent from reallyreallysad@gmail.com.) 

Try to do things to get your mind off it, basically live through it, go on with your daily activities and use this time to focus on you and learn from the mistakes you make. Engage yourself in lots of activities to get your mind of it, try to do the things you like doing.

Try to move on.......... don't obsess, allow yourself heal. Everything in life happens for a reason,

Also never regret, it just wasn't meant to be.

Our emotions are a major pert of us because they occur in our day to day activities and decision making, but we should try not to allow them control us, we should be the ones controlling them.

Stop blaming yourself ,  It takes two to break up, the problem wasn't just you, it was you two as a couple. It's almost reverse-narcissistic to blame yourself that much! If you try to look at the relationship from the outside, maybe you'll have an easier time seeing how you both contributed to the breakup. "If only" killed the dinosaurs. (Actually an asteroid did, but let's not quibble.

xoxo
mama