When Is It The Right Time To Give It Up?

( True Talk ) 

After Think Like A Man, I'm sure some people picked up the 90 days rule. That basically means not sleeping with a guy you meet or start a relationship with until after 90 days . I kinda get the 90 days rule, It gives you time to get to know the person a little bit better, and also he cannot deny knowing you because a lot of guys sleep with girls and the next day they don't even remember their names. He would probably describe her like, the girl with the big ass, or the girl from Quilox or something... lol...

But then again the 90 days rules gives you an advantage, lets you know if this guy is worth giving it to... Don't get me wrong I am totally against sex before marriage and all but these days people don't seem to care, and a lot of girls out there are willing to give it up at any minute and you do not even have to try too hard, all you have to do is show them a good time. Some girls don't even need anything from you they just want the D... 

Have you seen the Movie Addiction? It's a must watch ( That's by the way) 

So when is the right time to give it up, For me I would say don't give it up. I have a lot of respect for girls who are still virgins. Even though people say stuffs like you need to taste it to know what you're getting into, you need to be sure he's amazing in bed.. but the fact is how would you know he's not good if he's the only one you've had, you don't have these thoughts because you are content with what he's giving you. I don't think sex is as good as they make it look in movies (Addiction) , I personally think it's overrated....

Let's Talk about Intimacy

I don't think sex is the only intimacy a relationship can have, sex may be seen by some people as an important part of any relationship. but the moments when you really feel close to someone, when you feel like you know each other on a level you’ve never known anyone else, usually happens when your clothes are on. These moments are not necessarily incredible or over-the-top or mind-blowing. They’re just special little things that happen when you find yourself with someone who makes you feel a way you’ve never felt with anyone else. As you get older, you start to realize that you want to feel intimacy with someone through things other than sex. You want to get to know them and you want to share pieces of yourself and you want to feel things together. I mean just looking at the person you're with and feeling the butterflies in your tummy and all ( Trust me that shii is Real) This person is more than your Lover, He/She is your best friend, Your partner in Crime, Gossip Partner, Praying Partner, Probably the person who annoys you the most in the (www) also is the person who can get you out of a very bad mood, sees you for who you are, knows your flaws and loves you even more cuz of them. I mean cuddling alone is intimacy, sleeping off on each others arms is intimacy, cooking together, sharing inside jokes, taking long naps, holding eachothers arms for a while without saying anything, going out of your way to surprise each other and many other things. 

If sex is the only thing keeping you and your man together, or if its the only thing ya'll have in common, then uhmmmm you need to find new things ya'll have in common..

It's a plus when you attracted to the person you're with, but it shouldn't be the basis of your relationship

I know I've gone off topic but mehn lol. I write as it comes lol. Le'ts get back on the topic.

When is it the right time to give it up? I don't think there is ever a right time, but don't do it because you're being pressured to, don;t do it because you think you would loose him, don't do it because you feel he would get it from somewhere else, do it because you are ready and willing to face the consequences... and please use Protection.... 

xxx

Mama